I had a serious insight the other day that kind of blew me away.
What if instead of having the perspective that we are living our lives we changed our perspective to we are watching our lives.
You can't say I didn't warn you that this was a serious insight. Don't be overwhelmed, hear me out.
We are all living life with the perspective of living it. We go through day after day putting time and effort into living a fulfilling and satisfying life while searching for happiness and contentment.
Instead..what if we changed our filter on the way we see how life works. Imagine your life is an Instagram picture that you are uploading. You can choose from over fifteen filters that will totally change how your picture looks. What if we chose the filter that allowed us to watch was happening around us as if we're sitting in a movie theatre watching our life on the screen.
The first thing you would notice right off the rip is that you don't really have that much control over what's happening. Everything is unfolding for you at the pace that it is going to unfold. Michael Neill states it perfectly, "You aren't the pilot on the plane, you are the plane."
We're along for the ride. What's going to happen is going to happen and we have to trust the higher power of time to deliver us what we need when we need it.
As tempting as it might be, this doesn't actually mean that you can sit on your couch, eat frozen pizza, and watch reruns of Friends on Netflix all day and night for the next ten years and expect to have a big, huge epic life.
It means that you only have so much control. You can push and push for things to happen but if the time isn't right it's not going to happen. You are the plane-not the pilot.
The second thing you would notice is how much easier life just got to live.
I know that in the past I have placed a massive amount of pressure on myself to have great success at a young age and that in part has a lot to do with why I haven't had great success already. I was blocking myself from great success by being pissed that I didn't already have it. I was refusing to accept that I wasn't in control and that my career would unfold when it was time for my career to unfold.
When I stopped thinking that I was the one in charge of my life and sat back and started having fun and being patient something incredible happened.
I was naturally happy.
And then something even better happened.
Everything that I had been longing for started to happen. Things started to unravel. My lifelong dream to backpack the world became a tangible thing. I got my first paid writing job. I moved to a new side of town that inspired my creativity.
What happens when we think we are the sole drivers of our life is that we end up blaming ourselves and even others for not being where we want to be yet. We work ten times harder and take twenty steps back. It's honestly awful and can lead you to some dark times.
That's why I urge you to switch your filter. Find the balance between taking action and understanding that life has got your back and you're fully supported. Failure is not a bad thing. If you don't get the job, it means you're not meant to have that job. You are not driving the plane of your life and you can't blame yourself for not being in a certain place in life if you aren't the one that is in control.
Take on this new perspective of watching life unfold, grab some popcorn, sit back and relax. Relinquish how badly you want to control everything because you can't, so why are you wasting your energy?
Do what makes you happy every single day with no pressure to have this incredible outcome and watch the incredible outcome personally come and find you.