I know it sounds silly but this is seriously a thing. How do I know? Because you're here reading this right now.
The tricky part of being scared of success is realizing that you're scared of success. Sometimes we dress this fear up as being "not ready" and procrastinating-and we don't even realize it.
Success can be scary. It means that the universe is going to call on you to become a different person, to outgrow where you are now and even some people who you currently surround yourself with. You don't know where it'll lead you and that's uncomfortable.
The fear of being uncomfortable is one of our biggest flaws as humans...it makes it insanely easy to stay in our lane and keep doing what we're doing because there's serious safety in the known.
You see, that's what it all boils down to. We're scared to quit our current job and go for our dreams because we're just as scared that we'll achieve it than that we will fail. It's this weird human composition-we want change but we don't want anything to change.
So how have I overcame my fear of success?
By becoming insanely patient.
It took a while and somedays I still get really anxious at the thought of what the future holds for me. I've started and ended blogs and websites and I've procrastinated and procrastinated on starting the journey to accomplishing my aspirations.
BUT there comes a time. A time when everything inside of us needs change. A time when our hourly jobs just don't cut it anymore and no matter what we're getting paid we need fulfillment. We need to wake up on Monday morning excited for the work day ahead and we need our work to be an integral part of who we are as a person.
If you don't feel this burning desire for that positive change just yet, sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is to stay patient. A year ago I thought I was ready to start on my journey to become a blogger and influencer...then I took a step back and realized that I wasn't at all. I still had some irresponsible living to do- I didn't want the huge commitment of being editor and chief of a successful lifestyle brand built around passion, it wasn't the right time. How did I know it wasn't the right time? Because nothing was working for me. Nothing was working in my favor and I don't mean that pessimistically, I mean it from an observer point of view.
When things are meant to happen everything around you will come together to make them happen. There won't be resistance because what's meant to be will always find its way.
So, the easy answer to how to overcome your fear of success is to ask yourself, "Am I ready to be successful? Am I ready to say no to hanging out with friends and family so that I can work on my business? Am I ready to work seven days a week on something that won't provide me income for a few months? Am I ready to be FULLY committed to this?"
When we force things nothing good comes of them. The end result won't be what you want it to be, it'll be a derived version that doesn't satisfy you.
When we do things when we are ready and it's the time is right you'll notice that doors open for you, opportunities come and find you, resources fall into your lap.
If you're beyond fearful of success-you might not be ready yet. I don't mean to give up on your dreams all together for three years. What I'm saying is that sometimes it's best to take a step back and do some behind the scenes work to prepare yourself for when the time comes. Read transformative books. Learn how others have built successful businesses off of passions similar to yours. Figure out what you prioritize in life and how you want your work schedule to be. Let yourself become patient.
Sometimes it can be a hard pill to swallow-we want to be ready and it's painful to come to terms that we aren't but when you accept it and embrace that you aren't ready life becomes this beautiful catalyst of awesome coincidences that you'll realize were the reason why you weren't meant to be successful months or even years ago.
Digest it. Come back to it. Most importantly-be patient with yourself. Know that you WILL be successful one day because you are obviously driven and motivated if you're here reading my blog.
If you're having trouble or need a pep talk-email me! Let's chat and get you some new perspective on your current situation. I offer all of my subscribers free transformative conversations because I truly believe in you and your ability to achieve what you are destined to.